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Psalm 45:10
Listen, daughter, consider, and turn your ear. Forget your own people, and also your father’s house.
8All your garments smell like myrrh, aloes, and cassia. Out of ivory palaces stringed instruments have made you glad.
9Kings’ daughters are among your honorable women. At your right hand the queen stands in gold of Ophir.
10Listen, daughter, consider, and turn your ear. Forget your own people, and also your father’s house.
11So the king will desire your beauty, honor him, for he is your lord.
12The daughter of Tyre comes with a gift. The rich among the people entreat your favor.
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The royal bride is asked to listen and forget her father’s house, words that bring the cost of changed allegiance into a wedding song.
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Ruth 1:16Ruth said, “Don’t urge me to leave you, and to return from following you, for where you go, I will go; and where you stay, I will stay. Your people will be my …Ruth chooses Naomi’s people over returning home, while the royal bride is told to forget her own people and father’s house.
Song of Songs 2:10–13My beloved spoke, and said to me, “Rise up, my love, my beautiful one, and come away.Both address a woman within a love song: one asks her to listen and forget, the other to rise and come away.
Genesis 12:1Now the LORD said to Abram, “Leave your country, and your relatives, and your father’s house, and go to the land that I will show you.Both name a father’s house as something to leave behind, though Abram receives a command from God and the bride receives wedding counsel.
Matthew 19:29Everyone who has left houses, or brothers, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my name’s sake, will receive one hundred …Both speak of leaving family or home; Jesus specifies leaving for his name’s sake and promises eternal life.
Matthew 10:37He who loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and he who loves son or daughter more than me isn’t worthy of me.Both concern allegiance that takes precedence over parental ties, with Jesus making devotion to himself the measure in Matthew.
2 Corinthians 6:17–7:1Therefore “‘Come out from among them, and be separate,’ says the Lord. ‘Touch no unclean thing. I will receive you.Both contain commands of separation, though the psalm concerns a bride’s people and Paul’s passage commands separation from what is unclean.
Genesis 2:24Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh.Both place departure from parents within marriage: the psalm addresses the bride, while Genesis describes a man joining his wife.
Deuteronomy 21:13She shall take off the clothing of her captivity, and shall remain in your house, and bewail her father and her mother a full month. After that you shall go in …Both concern a bride’s separation from her parents; Deuteronomy addresses a captive woman and sets aside a month for mourning.
Deuteronomy 33:9He said of his father, and of his mother, ‘I have not seen him.’ He didn’t acknowledge his brothers, nor did he know his own children; for they have observed …Both describe family bonds yielding to another allegiance: the bride’s marriage in the psalm, God’s word and covenant in Deuteronomy.
Luke 14:26“If anyone comes to me, and doesn’t disregard his own father, mother, wife, children, brothers, and sisters, yes, and his own life also, he can’t be my …Both use stark language about family ties, though Jesus speaks of the demands of discipleship and the psalm addresses a royal bride.
2 Corinthians 5:16Therefore we know no one according to the flesh from now on. Even though we have known Christ according to the flesh, yet now we know him so no more.The shared thread is changed human relationships: the psalm concerns family allegiance, while Paul describes a changed way of knowing people.
Isaiah 55:1–3“Hey! Come, everyone who thirsts, to the waters! Come, he who has no money, buy, and eat! Yes, come, buy wine and milk without money and without price.Both address listeners with commands to respond, though Isaiah offers food and water while the psalm addresses a bride.
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You need not turn this wedding song into a command to cut off your family. Its words address a royal bride facing a change of home and allegiance.
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